What’s good, you don’t want to change, so if your mindset is good, make optimal use of it and enjoy! Yet we don’t always find ourselves in the right state of mind for the day or for the occasion. So, you want to start and continue every day with the right mindset in the first place, as much as you can. Let’s begin with recognizing your main mindsets – which ones do you recognize as yours? Please complete the list with whatever ‘is you’ and is not on this list:
- Learning mindset
- Dependent mindset
- Victim mindset
- Compassion mindset
- Conqueror mindset
- Teacher mindset
- Student mindset
- – – – mindset
To be more acutely aware of your mindset at any given moment, check in with yourself:
- What’s the nature of my thoughts? What do I believe right now?
- What am I assuming in this moment and this situation?
- What’s my predominant narrative right now?
- What’s fueling me, what’s blocking me?
Your actions and the results of your actions are a reflection of your state of mind, your thoughts, and your assumptions. Your responses to above questions help you determine whether you are in a good mindset for whatever activity or encounter you are preparing for or facing at the moment.
“Mindsets are just beliefs,” states Carol Dweck, Stanford Psychologist and author of
Mindset – The New Psychology of Success. The beliefs that define your current mindset are powerful beliefs, yet they are ‘just something in your mind’, and you can change them. At the same time, we all know, that anything that involves deep-level change is challenging and requires serious discipline and daily commitment. Therefore, what follows are ways to start (or continue) with the right mindset:
- Avoid negative people.
- Actively disconnect from stressors.
- Breathe, stretch, move, meditate for 2 minutes.
- Adopt a positive morning routine to start off the day right.
- Find mentors, role models, alive or deceased, with the desired mindsets, attributes.
- Eliminate thinking distortions that might cloud your mind (dramatizing, personalizing).
- Spend time with people who are positive, creative, wise, fun, or whatever it is you desire.
- Have a vision of how you want to think and be and how you wish to respond to challenges.
- Acknowledge any victim and accomplice tendencies and actions you may think and portray.
- Focus on what didwork, on what you did accomplish, and on what you can do and control.
- See disappointments and failure as learning opportunities. Journal in order to mine wisdom.
- Reflect on beliefs, assumptions, and narratives that limit you from being in the right mindset
Actively choosing my mindset
Below you find a schematic exercise for actively choosing the mindset that you believe you need for the day, week, or simply for the occasion.
|Needed beliefs and thoughts||Helpful self-talk and narratives||Thoughts & actions I need to part from||Supportive people to contact/think of||Helpful short activities|